A Keen Perspective

Have you ever had someone doubt your capabilities, questioning your ability to achieve something? I recently found myself in a courtroom, listening to someone who was supposed to love me, tell a judge that I'm incapable. Those words could have broken me, but they ignited a fire within me. I realized I'd been doing what he claimed I couldn't do for a year and a half. What do you do when something like that happens? Here are 10 Steps to Handle Negative Talk: 1. Acknowledge the Emotion:  Recognize how their words make you feel. Anger, hurt, disbelief, or frustration are normal reactions. 2. Assess the Source: Consider the person's credibility and motivations. Are they trying to control or manipulate you?  Some people have to make you look bad to get what they want.  It doesn't mean there is an ounce of truth to what they say. 3. Focus on Facts: Remind yourself of your accomplishments and capabilities. I'd been doing what he claimed I couldn't do for a year a...

Have you ever felt so overwhelmed that you just shut down and do nothing? Like, literally nothing? No motivation, no energy, no desire to even get out of bed? You're not alone. I recently experienced this firsthand. My weekend was supposed to be a productive one – I had a long list of tasks to tackle in the house, garden, and my businesses. But as I faced the weight of hefty decisions and mounting responsibilities, my body and mind said, "No more." I felt the familiar sensation of overwhelm creeping in, and before I knew it, I was stuck in a state of paralysis. Despite my best intentions, I accomplished very little that weekend. But as I looked back on those quiet, unproductive days, I realized that my body was trying to tell me something. It was screaming for rest, for stillness, and for the freedom to do nothing. This post may contain affiliate links, where I earn a small commission if you purchase from clicking on the link. In Elizabeth Gilbert's memoir Eat Pray Lo...

As I drove down the rustic backroads, I stumbled upon a sight that left me in awe. A woman was walking her enormous Roly Poly black and white pig, just as one would walk their dog. What struck me wasn't just the unusual pet, but the woman's confidence and comfort in being different. Meta AI generated a photo based on my description of what I saw. In a world where conformity is often encouraged, it's refreshing to see someone embracing their individuality. The woman didn't seem embarrassed or apologetic about her unconventional pet; instead, she exuded a sense of freedom and joy. As I passed by, I couldn't help but reflect on my own life. How often do I hold back from being my true self, afraid of judgment or rejection? Yet, in that moment, I saw the beauty of unapologetic self-expression. The woman and her pig reminded me that being different is what makes us unique and beautiful. By embracing our quirks and individuality, we can live more authentic, fulfilling live...

This post contains affiliate links. By clicking any of the links,  if you make a purchase, I earn a small commission. Today, I watched the movie " Enough " starring Jennifer Lopez, and it struck a chord deep within me. The film's themes of resilience, self-reliance, and empowerment resonated strongly, reminding me of another favorite, " Where the Crawdads Sing " by Delia Owens. Both stories feature strong female protagonists who have faced trauma and adversity, and their journeys toward healing and triumph are a testament to the human spirit's capacity for growth and transformation. As Evy Poumpouras notes in her book " Becoming Bulletproof ," "Research shows that watching a movie can set complex processes in your brain to work toward shifting your psychological mindset. This is what allows us to get swept up in a movie, to internalize the struggles of a protagonist we relate to and rejoice in their victories." This is precisely what happ...

As I write this, the world's top athletes are gathering for the 2024 Summer Olympics, a pinnacle of competition where every fraction of a second counts. Yet, in today's competitive world, it's easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, even when we're not vying for a gold medal. We often find ourselves wondering why someone else is achieving more, earning more, or succeeding faster. But as Evy Poumpouras, in her book, "Becomming Bulletproof," so astutely points out, "Every ounce of energy you waste worrying about someone else's progress or performance is one less ounce of energy you can spend on yourself, on building your skills and making your own strides forward." Let's take a cue from these Olympic athletes, who focus on their own performance and progress, and remember that our own journey is the only one that truly matters. To purchase, click the book which leads to my affiliate link on Amazon. I remember being an elementary...

Introduction: Welcome to my corner of the internet! If you're navigating the messy, emotional, and sometimes hilarious world of separation and divorce, you're in good company. I'm thrilled to share my story, struggles, and triumphs with you. The Journey Begins: In March of 2023, in a very traumatic turn of events, my husband and I parted ways.  In the blink of an eye, my world was turned upside-down. The separation I never saw coming shook me to my core, leaving me to navigate uncharted territory and question everything I thought I knew about love, family, and myself.  As I struggled to find my footing, I realized this unexpected turn of events was also an opportunity for growth, transformation, and rediscovery. I've since experienced a rollercoaster of emotions - from shock and denial to fear, anger, sadness, and eventually, acceptance. But here's the thing: we are not alone in this wild ride. Finding Humor in the Chaos: Who says you can't find humor in heartac...